The One Focus Everyone Misses Yet So Simple To Remember

I get this question every so often whether it’s a random unsolicited one or whenever I hold a Question and Answers session on my Catholic Instagram page, Traditional Catholic Men or tradcatmen for short. It comes in variations but at the root of it is always the same:

How can I find happiness and fulfillment?

I can give hundreds if not thousands of variations that it I read in the private messaging or inbox:

How can I find the girl that will make me happy as a wife?

How can I find the job that I love?

How can I overcome that addiction to pornography and masturbation?

Questions like these make me reflect back to a time when I myself was trying to find the answers to the same questions I myself asked when I was going through my own struggles.

It wasn’t so long ago that I was in the same shoes as many of those that submitted the same questions.

I was a deadbeat, not with work having left the active duty Marine Corps life, and wondering what was next in the adventure known as life. Yet here I was, not knowing what to do next while unknowingly digging myself into a deep hole of sin and vice, leaving me feeling mediocre and depressed.

Then it hit me all at once; I was on the verge of being homeless, heartbroken from a toxic relationship that I should have not been in to begin with, and feeling emasculated to the bone.

“Why is this happening to me??” I thought outloud as I found myself walking in the soaking rain.

After much reflection while suffering from my own faults, it dawned upon me that I was lacking a life with Christ at the center. The ultimate answer to all of the woes I’ve had in my life was due to wanting to achieve whatever it was, whether it was scoring a beautiful woman to be in my life or a lucrative career, was the ultimate focal focus point instead of aiming for Heaven and Christ Himself.

I was aiming for something that will eventually die away, trusting that something so perishable on this Earth will fulfill my every want and desires yet failed to realize that it was Christ, the Holy Mother Church, will do it all.

It was when I realized this that my life began to finally turn around.

Prayers, frequent Confession, a change to attending the Traditional Latin Mass led to everything that I had ever wanted in my life and then some more.

Whether it was overcoming the financial rut I had been in, making authentic and masculine Catholic friendships, to now running a booming Catholic men’s page on Instagram, everything I could have ever asked for